This part I would love to send to my xT....
Such factors make survivors of sexual abuse particularly sensitive to any indications of disbelief, avoidance, or lack of follow-up on the indications of abuse by the therapist. Thus, the therapist's willingness to consider the possibility and significance of abuse is of primary importance (Butler, 1978; Herman, 1981). A serious response from the therapist, addressing possible indications of abuse and inviting further exploration is necessary. Direct, matter-of-fact inquiry and follow-up regarding violence or sexual abuse in childhood enhances the likelihood of self-disclosure.

This made me cry...this is what happened to me with x T...
Several sessions ago Jane spoke, with difficulty, about a memory of being abused by her brother. Her therapist, wanting to respect her pace, decided not to refer to it again, waiting for Jane to bring it up when she was ready. Jane broke the family "rules" by telling. Afterward she felt frightened and thought she had done something wrong. When her therapist failed to mention the memory, she began to think that she had been exaggerating and that the incident wasn't such a big deal