Hi jxk65 - im sorry to hear your having difficulties in your marriage, this truly does sound like a miserable situation. One point i hear again and again is that your wife apparently doesn't love you anymore. If thats the case then i don't really know what hope there is for the relationship. You cannot make people fall in love with you again - if the spark isn't there it isn't there.

Also, if you're trying your hardest your wife can't really ask for much more...i wonder if you are both equally commited to resolving these issues - when theres an imbalance in effort there will only be more problems on the horizon. If she experiences frequent anger towards you how are you supposed to listen or hear her? She can't have it both ways...

If you are prolonging the situation now just for your daughters i would seriously consider breaking things off. It sounds as though this is what she wants but doesn't quite have the courage to do it. I personally wouldn't wait around to be told im no longer wanted - if you can't sit down and discuss whether you both want to do therapy because you want to be a better partner in the relationship and save the marriage, i don't see the point in dragging the situation out. Theres no shame in being divorced - yes its the last thing anyone would want to resort too but if you've given it your best and it just isn't working i think it shows greater strength of character to walk away. Just my thoughts. I hope this situation resolves positively for you i really do.