Hi LoveOneAnother - i think what his children are doing is petty and shameful, they are grown men for goodness sake - do they expect their father to remain single for the rest of his life? This is extremely selfish. I personally would have tried to instigate a meeting with them...perhaps they feel you dislike them or want nothing to do with them? They're not going to change their mind and welcome you if you make no effort to meet them - thats not how it works. After all if you intend to remain in your husbands life you would have to meet with them eventually. I think its worth deciding whether this is something you wish to pursue - if you love this man i think you need to explain that him delivering an ultimatum like this is unfair, of course you don't want to seperate him from his grown sons who im sure have their own lives - but you are still his WIFE and deserve to be treated as such. He needs to man up in my view and explain to his sons that you are in his life whether they like it or not - and they won't disown him regardless of what they say, what happens if they need daddy all of sudden? They won't be able to stay away forever and as long as he makes it clear he will be there for them too no matter what hopefully they'll learn to grow up and accept the situation. All the best.