Patty, I realize you met these men online. That doesn't mean every one of them is a lying weasel. I've met close to a dozen of B.'s friends and family already, enough to know he is what and who he portrays himself to be. We've had the serious and not-so-serious discussions already, before one of us gets over attached to the other, only to find out the other doesn't want the same thing. Guess what? We want the same things.

But that's neither here nor there. You have to do what feels right to you. If being mateless for the next 30 years feels right, go for it.