you are so sweet, what a good friend for a bp'er to have!

when i'm getting depressed, i wouldn't give a codeword. sometimes i don't even know i'm depressed. i will tell people i don't feel well. i do avoid calls, unless it's my best friend or mom. i like texts that say, "hey friend no pressure just checking on you you're on my mind".

i understand the "are you ok? texts". because i do isolate, and i don't mind them, will usually answer with a a quick, "yes, thanks". honestly most of my friends have not stuck around.

what i would be willing to do instead of a codeward is to reach out to a friend if i'm feeling unsafe. perhaps you could ask him if he's willing to have an agreement that he will talk to you if he starts to feel unsafe, i.e. hurting himself/others.