Lol, on the Tinkerbell comment, Trippin'! (That's an lol of empathy btw.) And yes! People do feel free to comment, don't they?! What is up with that?! And when shoveling through seconds or thirds commenting on how they can't believe it. Well, believe it, 'cause here it is! <roar!>

Now caught up with posts in the interim, back to OP...

Oooooh, yeah I *do* understand what you're saying, Trippin'. Though of average height, I am basically a stick, and recently said I hope I don't lose any more weight. 2/3rds of the pants in my closet are too big. Droopy-butted pants? No thanks. Skirts that are supposed to be near the waist are hanging on at hip bones. If I see a shirt with darts, it's pointless to try it on. Strapless dress? Good thing I'd never have the occasion for one. Bra shopping? Full-on self-esteem shattering nightmare. Most juniors' clothes (a slimmer cut in US sizing) are ridiculous for my age. Manage a few. And good luck finding much on the discounted sales rack. They didn't even order that many to start.

Compounding that, and speaking of age, let's just say there is little sympathy among my peers. I wouldn't dare even talk of it. There was a quiz thing online. One entered their gender, age and weight to see where they fell in the global picture of the data that was calculated from 177 countries. I fell just under the average in Bangladesh. Country number 177. An ex-neighbor ( a few years older than me, rather heavy and most importantly -- not blind) had watched a movie -- oh, you simply must watch it, it's wonderful! It never even occured to her that the title alone was a total smack-down -- "Real Women Have Curves". Really? Yeah, thanks. That's obviously right down my alley! <sarcasm> A real feel-good movie that must be!

Really, I do get it. It's an understatement to say that there is beauty far beyond the narrow parameters media presents. I even get how come people on the other end have little sympathy -- that media "ideal" is pervasive after all. Thing is, I don't have it either! You won't see me wearing clothes that show my ribs. Or an.y.thing with a v-neck or scoop neckline. Or modeling bras. Or wearing clothes likely to be referred to as "sexy". There will be no man-distracting or enticing use of bosom. That ain't in the toolbox. I've got to work with personality like just about everyone else (oh, ok, and a nice toucas according the my SOs through the years, lol).

Being on this end of things has its challenges and self-esteem issues too. And it feels like we aren't even allowed to b**** about it!

So yeah, Trippin'. I totally get it.

(Worth noting -- definitely no EDs here. I love to eat!)

***Important addendum (this is a very busy thread!). Trippin' our word is "compact", definitely not deformed.
And I'll toss in: Boob job? NEVER. The world and its warped thinking can f*** off.

(I'm older than Genetic incidently.)