I just read your post and wow! I started dating my wife when her divorce was alomost done with. Of course, her ex cheated on her and I hear about it when ever I go somewhere (I.e out of town for work or rugby), but now she is getting better. It sounds like this male character is a real jackarse, who has total control of his exwifes feelings. I can understand leaving your feelings out there and get thrown away, but pack it up and get on with it, brother. It will be unhealthy for you keep on going the way you are. This is just my point of view, but I wish you luck.

KJ