two sons,

Thank you for replying! Nice to meet you. Can I ask a couple of stupid questions here? How hard is marriage when you're avoidant? You are proof it can be done, and for that I applaud you. Some forums I went to spoke about avoidant personality with words like "run, run, run!"...as if we were the plague. How do you manage it? May I ask what medicine works for you? Is it a lot of hard work to be in a relationship when you have this personality type? I'm assuming you went thru the gamut as a baby, neglect etc...(as did I, and I'm not even angry about it).

I'm in my 40's and have never had a relationship last longer than about 8 months, and want to lick this darn thing becasue I have feelings for a guy that i want to maybe act uponlol, for once anyway! (he's just so perfect!). Never had a clue until I happened upon the term avoidant on another psych forum. Now I'm going for a diagnosis but wonder how worth it could be to even get it this late in life...?