Gadgetsmile staying in the here and now is an excellent idea. It is so clear the you love your daughter and want what is best for her. Can you continue to try to focus on you and her and right now? A very good way to keep that focus is with mindfulness meditations and activities. There are a lot you can find on youtube.

If kaitlyn is school age you can have her do them with you. You could make it a fun special experience for her...maybe explain you understand she is frustrated, but want to teach her a way to get a break from those feelings. You could hold her while you both breathe and listen and it may give both you and her a much needed rest from the past and the future...