I think that might be the difference. I am not a survivor of CSA... but I do experience distance and neutrality as purposely withholding, and distance does bring to mind a lot of my family's dysfunction. Those things are probably the crux of what goes wrong all the time within my family. It's possible to have a screwed up family without being abused. I don't think it's wrong for CantExplain -- or me -- to feel abandoned, vulnerable, and purposely unprotected even though we're not CSA survivors.

Whether either of us is getting into a bad pattern with our T's, though, is an individual matter.

I just think that while this might be broadly applicable to survivors, that doesn't meant it is NOT applicable to those who are not.