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Originally Posted by unhappyguy
There are some suggestions:
1. You can be proud of it - it's perfectly normal!
2. If seated, cross your legs.
3. Not to worry, it will eventually go away on its own.
4. Change your thoughts to something non-sexual.
5. Realize that you have sexual needs that are not being met and do something about it, e.g., masturbate in private or find someone who will help you meet your sexual needs in a healthy way.
Participating in active sports sometimes is a good way to deal with unmet sexual needs because it is a physical outlet.
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I agree that it is normal for men (and women) to be attracted to the other sex and for their bodies to sometimes correspond to this attraction. Secondly, you mentioned not worrying about these situations and trying to think of something else which I think makes sense.
Yet, in your mention of acting on on these feelings, I think some things need to be considered, some of which you mentioned already. An important part of this suggestion that you gave is that this becomes a moral question in acting on feelings.
I know you mentioned acting in a healthy way with your feelings, which begs the question, "what is healthy and moral behavior for having sexual feelings?" People have many answers for these questions according to their faith and religious practices and other values. Which brings up what you mentioned about masturbation.
Although masturbation may feel good and seem like a way of acting out sexual feelings, I think something that psychcentral would agree with something I am going to say because there is a forum on this topic. When a person masturbates, it can easily become addictive. Even if the person tells himself, "I am going to just masturbate this one time or couple of days since I feel like it," this can trigger an addiction to masturbation. Just try looking on this site for the people who want to work or just watch a baseball game, but they cannot because they are addicted to sexual fantasy, masturbation and worse.
The simple answer is that masturbation leads to bigger problems and people need to find better ways to handle their problems. I understand many people may disagree with this, but this is the truth.