I think lonely's comments here are very insightful. Maybe what your daughter wants and needs (in addition to help with tangible things like meal preparation) is some matneral nurturing... the kind of "everything's going to be okay," "i'm here for you," "i love you," "i'm proud of you," "hugs and kisses" type stuff that so many of us often say we never received as children and wish our T's could provide for us. As many of us know from experience, those needs don't go away when we're adults.

It sounds like things with your daughter have already improved a lot because you've opened up a channel of communication with her and you've asked her what you can do to be helpful to her (and then done it!). That's great! But maybe something she doesn't know (or is shy) to ask for is some additonal nurturing and comforting.

I don't have a mom but I do have a dad, and he is visiting me right now. Yes, I could always use help with tangible things (I'm certainly overworked and overtired!!!) but what means much more to me than who hung the painting on the wall or who walked the dog is the fact that he LISTENS to me, says he is PROUD of me, and spends time just BEING with me. Those are the things that I remember after he leaves.