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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
Finally, I think that part of the job of the T is to model how we need to learn how to see benign events as benign events and not get upset about things that we should be able to take in stride as reasonable people. T asking us to reschedule for their convenience is a benign event-- it is not about us, it is about T's need to take time off-- and there is no hidden meaning and message about one's worthiness. So I don't think it's something that T should ask us about, as if we should be upset. Their behavior should say, I'm asking you to do this for my schedule, and I hope you can. They shouldn't say, I'm asking to change because I want you to get the message that you are the least special of my clients, and I want to jerk you around and generally make you feel miserable. In fact, I hope you get the message that I don't want to work with you anymore because I'm asking you to switch to a 4am appointment on Sunday.
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I agree with you.
My concern with the "tell your T how you feel about everything" philosophy is that it doesn't seem to have a sense of scale. There are some things that are so huge that they require A Very Special Session (cue the sad music). And then there are some things that, I would think, just don't need to be mentioned unless the intention is to just make things complicated. If you tell your therapist everything, then how do they know when you're really twisted up over something?
Fixated, having your appointments on the "book ends" of the work week makes for a precarious existence. Mine are on Mondays. Not only do holidays tend to get me, but so do extended vacations. It sucks. If it's getting to be too much, I would see if you could change your appointment time.