I think the healthier we get, the healthier our relationships will be ... Until we've "fixed" (for lack of a better word) ourselves, the less likely it is we will attract healthy people into our social circle ...

I've learned to not feel too guilty when I drop a friend or acquaintance who's stuff is more than I can bear ... !!!

Sheesh! ... Sometimes it's all I can do to bear my own ... !!!

Separately, our stuff and their stuff isn't so bad to deal with ... But, put them both together, and it can provide for much unneccessary drama and trauma ... !!!

And, haven't all of us already had enough of that in our lives ... ???

,
Pfrog!

ps. I know that some of us have been damaged in ways that can't be "fixed" ... In that case I feel it's best to be extra careful about who and what we let into our lives so that we don't add to that damage any further ... !!!