Sometimes I get angry at the people I love when I know they can be doing more for themselves, but for whatever reason choose not to. I am guilty of this as well. It is hard to understand without knowing what happened, however I can't imagine a T as good yours (getting this from your posts that I have read) would get angry just to be angry. I am sure from the way you have described her that it is coming from a loving place.

What is it you need from her to move on?