I can understand that. Even if something happened in the past, I think everyone deserves the chance to be who they are now. I prefer to make my own mind up about people, it's a lot healthier that way! Although I do value trusted friends' input too.....

I don't often post in Abuse, that is the reason why I haven't posted to you there...(triggering for me and I usually find other people have said what I would have wanted to say)