Sounds like you'd really like some choice and space and openness in your interactions? I'm hearing you say that statements like "just do it already" and suchlike are triggering to you, and somewhere, when you read/hear those, you feel annoyed and a little hurt, because it seems that people aren't regarding your feelings, and are attempting to "whip" you into doing something they think is appropriate? If I'm understanding that correctly, I imagine that's really upsetting and I'm regretting that this conversation in any manner led you to feel that way. I can only say very honestly that neither the mental whipping nor this was the intention. I hope I've understood you clearly.

Take care..