I'm agreeing with BB up there mostly, but I would like to just sort of... say that seeking mental health is a PERSONAL choice. And your daughter is old enough to choose. It is really important that if she does go to a psychiatrist or therapist, it is HER choice - because in the long run that matters a lot. Otherwise it's damaging to one's sense of self worth - because one feels as though one isn't even really in charge of one's feelings or choices anymore. Nothing more damaging than that.

So... my sense is, be honest with her, see what she says... Hope this works out!