Oh, I'd agree with others here who essentially say that everybody is damaged. It is simply a matter of degree. I have a tendency to try to please others to the point of my own self destruction. I now know I need to avoid narcissists like the plague. They'll eat me alive.

I'm with somebody who is relatively healthy emotionally. He is 'damaged' in some areas that are not that important to me. I'm happy for his flaws, otherwise I'd consider him a flight risk or that he would demand perfection from me. Due to our life situations (kids, work etc) we don't see each other as often as I would like. As painful as that is for me, because I have become unbearably attached and want to see him 24/7, I am prevented by circumstance from suffocating him.