well I txted my T this a.m. to let him know my vision really seems to be improving, so now I feel kinda stupid. ie, that's what I told him when I saw he tried to txt back and I called him back. for some reason his txts to me don't come thru. anyway, he pretty much just validated what I had to say - about feeling young again, hallelujah! - and he gets it, and we both said 'love you'. that to me now is reaching out and being connected. I was watching The 5th Estate last nite, about a black widow, so I got some ideas and looked on match.com. the point is, why NOT find a slower older man (i'm 60) instead of worrying I can't keep up with some g.d. grey-haired triathlete?! I mean, I don't have to kill him I just have to be "myself" (that should do it!). anyway, goal for next year.