Please consider marriage or couples counseling.

My hubby and I go to marriage counseling. At first, I was scared of going to counseling with my hubby. But, it's really no big deal. We take turns talking about stuff affecting us. We've learned how to talk to each other without hurting each other's feelings.

When you love someone, you want that person to be happy. I'm sure neither one of you wants to see the other suffering.

Only you can make the first step at true intimacy . . . invite her to couples counseling with you.