Laura, I think that is a great realization that it is time to take care of you! I know from my own experience that it was difficult for me to do at first, but really great once I got used to the change. I'm now in a very different relationship (compared to my first big one) where my husband is also aware of what co-dependency looks and feels like and we both work to make our relationship interdependent, not codependent.

Take care,

Elizabeth