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50 years ago I was an overcontrolled perfectionist with anorexia nervosa. Therapists encouraged me to express my feelings. Feelings were pretty disconnected from my awareness.
I recovered from anorexia but went to therapy off and on over the years, primarily for depression or anxiety. I tried very hard to get in touch with my feelings and eventually I was able to. And in the late 1960’s and early 1970’s vehement expression of emotions was a cultural norm.
Nowadays the pendulum has swung back again and I am castigated and despised because although I can now feel and express my emotions, they can get dysregulated – causing me me to be seen as a social problem when I express them. Still in therapy, paying out of pocket.
Does anybody else here see the possibility that we are society’s scapegoats, not the problems? Or – if we ARE the real problems – why is it a problem for others, in these days of "boundaries", if we suicide?
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