Moreta, I am so sorry that this happened and that you are going through this. I have been there more than a few times myself and it is not much fun. Whenever I am in a conflict and someone starts yelling it is natural to freeze up and withdraw. It is not really all that different than huddling for safety whenever there is danger.

Yelling and throwing things is pretty scary. Maybe it says a lot more about him and his issues. There is no point in trying to reason when someone is in that state. It is hard to believe that his anger is really about cleaning the house. Most men in general care a lot less about that than we would like to think, I suspect there is something deeper going on with his emotions and the storm you endured is only symptomatic.

When he has time to cool off and regain composure is the time to gently approach the issue and find out what is really going on. FOr me that works a lot better than direct confrontation or subtle retaliation.

Having said that it is easy for me to talk when I am at a difference. It is much harder when you are in the situation. I do hope that you will be able to communicate when the time is right and that this is all going to work out for you

Don't give up. I care for you and am here for support

Hugs -- Larissa