I have some severe attachment issues and can understand the painful feelings you have been experiencing. I personally try to tolerate as much as I can and have a clear contingency of what to do when I lack the skills needed to contain what I am feeling at the time. (It's embarrassing to say, but I often am not able to contain it) Attachment feelings can be very powerful. This means I and T have established what kind of contact is ok so that there aren't any surprises.

I have gone through cycles of push/pull with my T stemming from fear of attachment and the intimacy of the therapeutic relationship. If you can, try to be open with her regarding your different states because chances are you may cycle back from the distancing to needing more reassurance. Also she will be better able to help and support you if you can let her know how you are feeling from week to week or in between.

Until this past week I was doing homework assignments to help, but I think I am pulling away at this time, because this week I have only done my morning daily activity. My relationship with my T has changed so I am sure this is part of processing those changes. You're right it is not all fun and Attachment issues are intense to work through, but they can be. The main thing is to keep going to T and stay committed to your wellness. Self soothing helps as well, but sometimes it is not enough. Don't be too hard on yourself and remember to give yourself a break every now and again.