PFM,

I think that you need to try to give yourself a pat on the back. You may be becoming snippy, but you're noticing that...which is a step in the right direction! As soon as you notice that it's taking a while to calm down or that you're constantly repeating yourself to your daughter, I'd recommend changing everything.

Take a deep breath and say, "____ let's put on our jackets and go for a walk to the park." Or wherever ~ point is, get out of that environment for a few minutes. You daughter will get excited, and that will be a good opportunity to remind her to do whatever. Feel free to admit that you become frustrated sometimes, just like she does. And when she doesn't respond to you the first or second time, you become pretty frustrated because this is happening so often. Ask her what you both can do to make this occur less often. Let her come up with some ideas.

Chances are that she'll share something/s that frustrate her. If not, it's a great time to ask when you're sharing your emotions. You may be able to help each other a lot with one or two of these walks to/from the park together.

Best wishes!!