Well I am still in therapy and we have come to that stage (that happens every time I do therapy) where the T has no idea what to try next or what to do. There is a window of about 4-5 sessions where we go in there and flounder aimlessly. Then after that, they usually end the treatment because nothing seems to be working.

This is a good opportunity for me to do what good therapy clients do and take control of the session. That is what I usually do. I go in there and say "Right, we need to look at this from another angle" and I introduce something new that the therapist may not have thought of, or what i have come up with, etc. Unfortunately this has never worked for me in the past - either the therapist gets offended that I have taken control of her sessions, or the new angle that I come up with is not useful and we continue floundering (then the therapist terminates me).

I want to take control on my next session - it is time. I need a good angle that will not be useless. How do you know which angles are useful and which are not? Like for example, I'm in schema therapy this time around and my detatched protector mode is just too good. The therapist cannot even get near it. So last session I said "right. This is the issue - how do we destroy the detached protector mode?" and she got angry that i was taking control and the session ended. Why would she not give me that info? Who cares who has control as long as the issue is resolved?? I only do it because it is better than nobody doing it. I will not allow any more "flounder for 4-5 sessions and then it ends".. I am doing what is necessary.

How do you know what is a useful angle and what is not? I think that is my main question here.