Elmo, I think candybear meant birth family. I know I've been nuts my whole life and my whole family won't go there. It is only very recently we can even scratch the surface to speak of such things "in the family"--- "bad seed" and all that. People REALLY don't want to go there. ANYTHING but THAT.... shhhhh!!!! There is depression on both sides of my family. Unaddressed for centuries. My sister whispered to me that, "My niece takes an anti-depressant" out of earshot of our Mom..... shhhhhhhh.

A wife comes to the scene later with objectivity. Different.