We have already discussed all this many times. She only responds with empathy, which does not help (and i told her this). She says something like "we will cross that bridge when we come to it" and i say "we are on it now!" but its like she does not believe me or something.

I need to come up with a plan that i can introduce by myself, to her. She is the resource, I am the person with the issue. When I say control the session, I mean I say to her "right, we need to do this and this to combat this issue, what resources do you have to assist in this goal?". I figure she is the expert on schema therapy so if I introduce some sort of concept, she can assist me in achieving that goal with her knowledge. I just need the right kind of angle to get my foot in the door