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Originally Posted by Mr. Venomous
Honestly, I am not sure how to answer that question, because it’s never really occurred to me like that before. I don’t really think of whether or not I am interested or not interested, rather I have always thought about their characteristics, if they are compatible with me, and how nice they are, with an emphasis more on objectivity than feelings I suppose. I’ve always thought of relationships as like buying a car - you learn about its features and make an estimate if it will work for you. Might sound awful for some but I am told (by my T) that I am not well acquainted with my inner feelings, therefore any question concerning how I feel is a difficult and seemingly bizarre question to me. I don’t know - I am messed up  . |
That doesn't sound messed up (to me), more... complex and difficult to handle. I say this because I'm relating to you on some level because there have been times when I've just been feeling WAY too much to comprehend or express it in one or two words (and indeed, even when I can express it in one or two words, there are usually more than one feelings). So when that happened to me last - in the middle of a full blown panic attack - someone asked me not WHAT I was feeling but WHERE I was feeling it (i.e. where in my body did the emotion seem to be). Which was odd, but ... say fear, for example, I found lived in my chest, like a constricting, scary fist? This is all not necessarily relevant to THIS context >>;;
But in this context, erm - I don't know how a relationship based on pure objectivity would work. Would you be willing to elaborate on how this works for you?
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She seemed to mention her BF only in the context of what she was doing for Thanksgiving, since she was the one that asked me that question first, and after I responded she kind of took over the conversation from there.
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I'm going to echo what the others have said and say that it seems likely that she was just babbling, wanting to talk and be friendly, and it seems unlikely she's really interested in that aspect.
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1.) “I think as a woman if I ever mention a boyfriend (real or otherwise)…,” real or otherwise? Huh? Otherwise?
2.) I don’t know anything about 9 year old boys hitting 9 year old girls out of ‘sort of’ repressed affection.
3.) I don’t normally smell others and I mostly lost my sense of smell as a child from an over-the-counter drug addiction…thought I should add this  lol.
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1. Otherwise: Sometimes, men get... overly personal? And I've found that telling them about my boyfriend (who may or may not be real, just... something I make up on the spot) or in more conservative cases, my "husband" really just... solves that problem. I don't do this often, just... when I feel a little alarmed or threatened. Maybe it's an India thing, I dunno >>;
2. You know? Like... when a little boy's picking on a little girl, somewhere there's... interest? Like sticking gum in someone's hair is a way to get them to notice you?
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That's interesting. Potentially alarming (like how would you smell gas in an apartment if that's happening?) but also... interesting (in that... if you've read Harry Potter, what would the love potion smell like to you? Or would there be a different way for it to apply to you? Just... thinking, and really hoping this isn't offensive
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