TY for your reply Abby! It is a great idea. Change how I take control and do it in a different way, true! I can't just not take control and just go with the flow - I have been taken on a ride by many-a-therapist by doing that - I lost thousands of dollars like that. But maybe there is another way. Hmmmmm. Must think on that one. Maybe there is something I haven't come up with yet that could do the trick!