Anika, I know you're not looking for pity but I'm truly sorry for all you've been thru & continue to have to deal with.
You're very strong but you can't fix or take care of or put up with everyone's stuff & put yourself last. You've come so far, please take care of yourself.
I'm plenty old enough to be your mother so just let me get by with my little sermon.
Only want the best for you.