First off, thank you for caring and trying to be accepting of your son. Your willingness to accept and open your mind to something entirely different than what you are used to inspires me.

I am 20 years old and came out to my family earlier this year. I was scared to death for the longest time because I was raised in a strong baptist home. When I came out to my mother, it was freeing and shocking all at the same time. She was shocked I was gay because I acted straight and she was also fearful because she associated gay sex with aids. While those responses may not be picture perfect to some, it was relieving that she didnt want to shun me or get angry with me.

Based off of my experience, I think the best thing you can do is show you love your son no matter what. Display that you care and are sorry about not recognizing it sooner. When you feel he is ready, explain to him how it is hard for you as well because you want to be there for him and show him your love but you dont know how.

Your post also gave me insight on what my mother might be feeling which is something I feel a lot of gay people and gay rights advocates forget to think about. Once again thank you for posting and I hope I was of some help to you.