My point wasn't to make you feel bad, my point was to draw attention to it. My interpretation is that there isn't a relationship there and this is why you miss your T.

If your daughter doesn't respond warmly to your hugs this also says that the relationship needs work.

If you have meaningful relationships IRL you do not need a fantasy relationship with your T.

Rainbow, I need to disclose here. Everything that you are writing right now about your daughter and yourself, well, I've seen the same thing with me and my mom. I was shocked when I read this thread the first time.

My mom comes to visit and she is bored. Why? Because she doesn't have a relationship with me or her grandchildren. I'm not saying that you are bored, though. But I had the same discussions with my mom, that I am busy already in my life and I need her help when they come to visit and stay for a week or more. That I don't have the time or ability to take care of my house, children and her and my dad. After my children grew up then it was okay. When my mom hugs me I am not all the receptive either. I do it as a hello/goodbye thing but it has little meaning in it for me.