As far as not being able to shower I have been there with depressions three times I used to have to crawl
Into the bathroom just to get in there. Something in the shower about facing my body and personal
Grooming I dont know it is hard to but into words but showering makes you face yourself in an intimate
Way. Also showering equals caring and at some level I did not care. I dont know how to tell you to do it but I do know for older people they have these personal hygiene wipes that are large that take the dirt off.