At one point, I was pretty insistent on my T telling me how to stop wanting stuff I am NEVER going to get. I believed (and believe) I would be much happier if I just didn't want this stuff. My T babbled on about healthy needs and desires and blah, blah, blah. He would never really address the issue directly until I point blank said, Will you or will you not help me stop wanting X? And he said no, he would not help me with that because it was not what I really needed. NOT to want those things would be unhealthy. So maybe the response you're seeing is the therapist not cooperating because she doesn't believe that destroying the protector is what you need to do.