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Originally Posted by SallyBrown
My mom doesn't have to drag me to therapy to find out why I don't like hugs. It may be the case that Rainbow's daughter doesn't want to talk about it, but no one's going to know that until somebody asks.
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True, but maybe the daughter doesn't want to be asked. Maybe the asking will make things worse by making the poor woman feel guilty--as I would feel if someone asked why I didn't want to hug them.
Hugs are a marker of success, in my opinion. When everything else in the relationship has healed, then MAYBE hugs will be forthcoming. But to start off the dialogue with a conversation about hugs...I dunno. I just don't think that's the right place to start when a relationship is still a work-in-progress.