Oh Anika, so sorry, what a mess. I knew you were stressed about her coming, I can see what sort of thing you were worried about with good reason. Sounds like she has bp? But when we all talk about our past spending sprees, decisions that weren't the best for our selves, our children... when we all talk here about those times, it's not boasting, but we're all here knowing we have bp, knowing the wrongs we've done and think seriously about it cuz we don't want to repeat it ever again. And your mom sounds like no clue she did anything wrong, won't admit it. And doubtful she could even be talked to about it at this time. And that's nothing like the woman that you are, Anika. But she's your mom, and you're doing what you believe in by keeping a relationship with her. Is she still there? Hope you can get back to your house in harmony soon. And hugs for bf, hope he feels better soon too, and your sisters.