I never worked on "adult" attachment since there was so much junk coming from my regular, previous/childhood psychology and makeup that I was actually working on. I think it is too hard and unnecessary to parse where and what kind of "attachment" one has to T versus to parent versus to friend or spouse, etc. We learned/learn how to relate to others as we are growing up and through our life span and just recognizing that relationship with X person isn't what we'd like or seems messed up because of previous assumptions and learning was enough for me.

I believe there's a lot of built-in stuff that isn't good or bad, just is. My relationship with my husband feels, in may ways, like my relationship with my father to me; both men are/were warm, kind, loving, thoughtful, intelligent, etc. and I'm quite sure I was attracted to my husband in part because of my relationship with my father. Were there difficulties with my relationship with my father? Of course. Are there difficulties with my relationship with my husband? Of course. But the men are not the same men (anymore than I am the same woman I was 20-40 years ago) and that is what therapy has helped me with; the differentiation and the living in "now" instead of intellectualizing or getting hung up in any sort of transference.