I don't know how you are "expressing" your emotions. I don't know that the style of the 60's and 70's was that particularly healthy with the telling everyone else how you feel --whether they wanted to know or were part of a situation or not.
Emotions/feelings are information for us. They, along with our thoughts help help us navigate the inner and "other" relationships we have as a part of living. Letting someone know we feel they screwed us, is not particularly helpful to us or them? We need our feelings to help us act; other people do not need our feelings, they have plenty of their own. They might like to know our feelings, might find them helpful in interacting with us but just emoting per se is not a relationship help?
We cannot control our emotions or thoughts, they arise on their own; we can only control our actions. That is not to say that we are not responsible for ourselves at all times; control and responsibility are not related. Telling someone else how we feel or what we think are actions. If we feel and do not pass the feeling through our thoughts and reasoning or we think and do not go any deeper to see what we are feeling, and then tell someone else; in my opinion, we have not taken good responsibility for our actions.
It's all right to feel angry, hurt, frightened, excited, happy, sad, whatever we feel. Feelings just are. They do not hold judgments; it's not right or wrong to laugh at a funeral, to cuss and look back when you trip on a sidewalk crack :-) I think we get tangled up when we start trying to do things as society would have us do them, first, before recognizing what we feel and think and what we would like to do ourselves, for ourselves. Worrying about what others do or do not think of us and our actions, not examining our beliefs that others know what we are thinking or feeling or "should" know and operating on those beliefs is where I've had the most problems in the past and where therapy helped me the most.
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