I talk to my parents (through my mother, typically) about every two-three weeks.

Sometimes I go through moments when I feel resentment towards my parents. Especially when I see other parents interacting with their children in ways that I perceive as "ideal". The other day I went to Home Depot and I saw parents building treehouses and whatnot with their kids. When I see things like that, I start thinking of how my parents failed. How they were too busy to do things like that with my siblings and me. And how they never treated us as individuals worth getting to know.

But overall, I don't have major beef with either one of them. I can distinguish their "sins" from who they are. My father did mean and cruel things, but he's not a mean and cruel person. My mother was not as motherly as she could have been, but she's doing her best now. I just have to do my part by letting the both of them in more than I have. It's very easy for me to put them out of my head and not factor them as components of my life, but I do know that this hurts them. So I need to stop.