I had contact with both of my parents before Mom died. Now that she's gone, I have full contact with my father. Well, at least as much as it can be with us living several hundred miles apart.

My T would prefer I have very limited or no contact with my father until I work through what a mess he and my mother made of me when I was a child.

I just can't cut him off. A couple of other siblings have done that and he has never forgiven them. It would leave another sibling with all the work of dealing with him, both while he's alive and after he's gone. I can't do that to my sibling.