I found out my wife cheated on me after 14 years of marriage and 3 boys. She didnt come right out and tell me i have to get the details over 4 weeks. I have filed for divorce, but is fighting it bad. Saying she is so sorry and wants it bad. She did break it off with him before i knew of it so i think she did relise it was wrong. It was bad decisions after bad. Here is my thoughts. I think she is scared now and she is going to be alone trying to run a house on very limited income (she doesnt work now). BUT i also truely and so does everyone else, that she is Bi-Polar. So if she is and she gets the meds can she be a good wife again? I am not going to trash her, thats not what its about i am not mad at her it was a bad decision on her part and she now has to live with it. So i am asking poeple who suffer from this bad thing. Can it be normal again?