MUE, maybe it really is just a matter of setting limits with this new friend. She may just not know what to expect from this new relationship either, and her saying these things is just her way of letting you know that IF you wish to come over you are welcome? I started a new friendship last year and we went through a period where we were seeing each other virtually every day for a while, and then not at all for a month or more because my life was just too crazy. I think it was a bit hard for my friend and I received several anxious, 'are you mad at me?' type emails. Then HER life got busy and I was the one going, 'did I make you mad by being unavailable?' So, new relationships take adjustments and sort of giving each other allowances for not being as socially skilled as we might all like sometimes.