Thanks for responding Layla.. I know she isnt healthy, I guess it would just help if I had closure to it.. Its so hard to invest that much time into something and just not know what was going on, maybe its a man thing.. since we are fixers.. I dont know.. She could be so loving at times, she was a school teacher... and had a good head on her shoulders.. But it was as if she just couldnt get it... During one of the breaks when she went back to her husband, I went on a date with a lady I dated a few times before.. well, she would check in on me from time to time when she was with her husband, and she lost it when she found out I was dating someone else, almost in a panic mode.. Said she was going to be sick. Just bizarre.. Was ok for her to do the things she did, but heaven forbid if I EVER would consider doing the same, whether in the relationship or not.. Towards the end when she searched out my ex's for information on me, I told her I should do the same to give her some of her own medicine (although I had no intentions of doing so), and she said "You wouldnt do something as horrible as that would you, you know how much I am afraid of my ex boyfriend!!" It was a response you would hear from a little kid.. There was a lot of entitlement issues.. ok for her to do things, but couldnt believe someone would do the same to her.. I know there are so many disorders, and many overlap each other too.. But I have read soooo many articles trying to figure out just what was going on.. I feel sorry for her too, even after all she put me through.. I feel sorry for her, because I dont think she sees how she sabotages her happiness.. Anyway, just looking for closure, and maybe I will never have it...