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Originally Posted by cboxpalace
I'm assuming that you want to know if she had bpd? who knows!! She has a lot of dysfunctional people all around her, and I'd probably lump you into the mix to some extent, but not as much as the others.
I love you at 2 months into the relationship sounds like nothing more than the high of the honeymoon stage, and at 5 months she finally came around and realized it was a bit premature.
There's nothing in here that really screams bpd, but she does have a lot chaos, and I think it's reasonable that she has some sort of disorder going on.
I think it's best for you that she's out of your life... Keep her out of your life. When you have to set a boundary of needing passwords it signifies a trust issue. A relationship with trust issues is a doomed relationship at some point.
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Thanks for the response.. Yeah, my part in this is what I wasnt proud of.. I know I enabled her by not putting my foot down early with my own boundaries, and that is what bothers me for myself.. I dont know why I allowed myself to take a beating.. think I wanted this relationship too much.. The more involved I got into it, and being almost 2 hours away.. I just anchored in.. I left her three or four times in the relationship, but she was so good at the manipulation game, the push/pull.. I have read a lot about how you start feeling the same attachment and qualities of someone with BPD, and that is why I thought I might be experiencing this.. I think maybe it had turned to some obsessiveness on my part to make it work.. But she was very alluring, we had a lot of passion and intense love in the relationship, especially the first 4 months.. Then it was like a switch going off.. Just bizarre.. Its been hard detaching from it, especially when she keeps reeling me back in with the pulling..