I know this is a very old thread, but I have some thoughts I would like to share.

There are still a lot of people in this world that are biased to people who are over-weight, or shallow. Attractiveness has nothing to do with weight. I have been extremely attracted to girls that are larger, and girls that are petite. To me, it honestly doesn't matter. Believe me, I have also been with larger women who were sexier than a lot of smaller women I have dated and also very good in bed. Being small certainly doesn't mean you are better in bed, or sexier by any means.

I prefer "normal" women. I am a "normal" guy. I am not extremely skinny, and not extremely fat (though I like to tell myself I am). I have been a lot thinner in the past, and a lot heavier in the past. I don't have a perfect weight, and I would certainly like to lose some but in terms of the majority of the US I would say my weight is decent. So I want a normal woman. I don't want a woman with a waist I could put two hands around. That's just not my thing.

With that being said, attractiveness comes in all shapes, sorts, and sizes. I have been attracted to extremely tiny girls, but generally it just isn't something that attracts me. I like women who aren't extremely small but aren't conceited either. That is just the type of person I am. My ex was pretty small, but not too tiny. She also had less confidence than anyone I have ever dated. I loved telling her how beautiful she was. She thought she was ugly, overweight, and all that. She wasn't.

I am probably a minority, but there are a lot of guys that like some meat on their women, if you will. I have known quite a few. You just have to find that guy, that sees beauty from the inside first and not the outside. Being attracted to your partner is extremely important, but you can actually become attracted to someone by their personality when at first you thought "nah". It has actually happened to me. You just have to find that type of guy, and you will.

I am not sure if D is or not, but to me it doesn't sound like it would be a REAL relationship. Don't you want something real?

Everyone is beautiful in their own way. I believe that. I also believe that there is SOMEONE out there for everyone, you just have to find him or wait for him. It will happen. We have stages in our lives where someone is meant to be there right THEN, but someone better will come along later. That's how I have always felt. Don't put yourself down because of weight. There are a lot of guys that would want exactly what you have to offer. It certainly doesn't make you less attractive or sexy, in my opinion. We are who we are, whether we are light; heavy; tall; short. Weight doesn't change who we are or what we are on the inside.