Oh I just stumbbled upon another name for surrogate spouce... Emotional imcest, kinda icky term, but it conveys that this is indeed abusive to the child. Thought I would put that out there for any of you who may have been in this role, esentially the parent one or both, making the child play the emotional role a spouce should play.

My sisters were not involved in this aspect, so I kinda had no idea it was wrong, and no one to relate too.

Sorry I have no spell check on my phone, it's probably bad.