I feel very sad too. I don't think you want to hear anything negative about either of these men... but I respect neither. I am so sad about this topic, it might be a trigger so forgive me if I offend. I really don't like D. commenting on your daughters' shape, admiring their ankles even. This scares me.

I think these men used you for your body. And now that it's changed mainly due to the bp illness, they're dissappointed. What about just being thankful she's alive and enjoy the days. It's horrible, it's like the exploitation of Marily Monroe. Hamster, men who are easily swayed by the seduction of a woman's body will not make the best mates, unless you are both only looking for a superficial porno life. And any woman can do this with the eyes, smile, alluring walk.

I am sad to hear skinny women compared to adolescent boys. I know you mean no harm Momma, but some of our friends here are really struggling to gain weight and just can't.

I'm not petite, I'm 5'7" 170 lbs. I think this is why my boyfriend barely wants to have sex with me despite he's always told me I'm the best matched partner for him sexually that he's ever had. I'm suddenly very insecure. I think men want a little girl. I think men want a little girl they can hold while having sex standing up. He used to do that with me when I was 145 lbs., 7 years ago. I just feel so sad right now like I need to starve myself, get lipo, a boob job even tho I'm a C cup. And I'm too tall, I want to be 5'2". And I'm worrying about pimples on my nose that aren't even really there, and the pores on my nose are too big. And my nails won't grow long, and my pinkies are crooked. Wtf am I doing, I've come so far to love my body but within minutes I'm hating every curve and imperfect flaw. This is not good.

We're here struggling to stay sane with this weird bp we've been given. Adding the burden of trying to make my body a certain shape that it will never do, not a good place for mind and self-esteem to go.

WEIGHT does not matter, should not matter. Friendship should be foremost, is the person interesting, do they stimulate your mind, are they kind, courteous... that's the sort of real and kind qualities that would lead up to a compatible sexual relationship.