Thanks everybody. I did write out one of the incidents - it was more involved than the first one, so i thought it was more important. Yes, she does read my journal and my SI journal - sometimes she can see things i can't (or don't want to?) Most of the time i'm pretty aware of what's going on when i do it - physically at least. Like when the body memories start. I've found there isn't much emotion behind it yet, though i think she sees more of a connection there than i do.
sometimes i just feel like i've done this so many times, told her about it, written it all out, and nothing changes. So i get a Why Bother attitude, i guess.
Anyway - thanks for the opinions. i'm trying to keep in mind that what seems so obvious to me is not always immediately clear to her. i just get impatient.